Value System

People dream of living life in their own style; but often they fail.

Life has its own rhythm, and true wisdom lies in adapting to it with a strong Value System.   

Value system is a set of principles or beliefs that guide an individual's choices and behaviors. It shapes ethical decisions and influences personal and societal standards. To improve your value system, self-reflection, identifying core values, assessing their alignment with actions, and striving for consistency are essential. Engage in activities that reinforce positive values, seek diverse perspectives, and cultivate empathy. Continuous learning, open communication, and ethical decision-making contribute to the refinement and strengthening of an individual's value system. 

In your journey to success and happiness your first step should be to start developing a strong resilient value system. Without this anything else you do in life is going to go futile, and your efforts will be wasted, and you getting disappointed. So let us first read about how to develop the perfect Value System in life.

IFLC inspires you to develop a positive value-system in these areas:

1. How to deal with your emotions and align your thoughts in the right direction.

2. How to improve your intelligence to succeed at education and at work.

3. How to develop positive relationships with family, friends, colleagues, neighbours and everyone else.

4. How to increase your earnings many folds.

5. How to offer service to mandkind in any/all ways to achieve the state of ultimate happiness.

6. Value system Rules

7. Value system Duties

Avoid adopting or copying negative behaviours you see around in the world. The are so many negative people and things you will notice going around; its because the people who are doing it are also severely misguided. They have been unfortunate to have seen only bad examples in this world; and they have blindly copied it.  You don't have to follow the same trajectory; otherwise your lives will be no better than those poor souls. 

Ideal Family Lifestyle Cub (IFLC) is here to support your development into a positive, optimistic, loving, hopeful, compassionate, and caring person. You also have a wonderful network of family and friends who are incredibly positive and supportive. 

Never before has such a thing happened: Ideal Family Lifestyle Cub (IFLC) where you will meet so many positive people, all in one place. 

Many things happen around us all the time. The more observant you are the more they all influence you. And as per our nature we get emotional about it and react to it. This is the cause of so many troubles in our lives. These days, there is an overflow of information into our lives by the "Information Agents": TV, social media, people, books, events; they all bombard us with information. Often, the information is half-baked, incorrect and misleading. Believing these information as true and letting it influence you can cause you unnecessary emotional trouble. 

We cannot stop the information that is being thrown at us, but we surely can stop accepting it. One option is to occupy yourself with career focus, life focussed activities through out the day, to the extent that you do not get time to get influenced by the Information Agents. But if you completely block all the information into your life then you would become ignorant. So you need to learn to strike the right balance.

The real trick is to let the information reach you and then selectively process some information and reject/ignore most information. Do not let your attention, feelings, thoughts get captivated by an interesting or disturbing video you saw on Instagram or some one said something at workplace. Just watch it and forget it and refocus on your definite chief aim in life. The quicker you learn this trick, the easier it will become for you to reach peace of mind. 

In the future too we will have more and more information being thrown at us and we cannot afford to be lead by them, all the time. Imagine a young person targeting for gold in Olympics spending most of their day watching Instagram videos and still being able to win gold at Olympics; it's just not possible. They need to be working hard day and night, mastering the skills required to be the best sportsperson in their field. Whether they win Olympics gold is secondary; what is primary, is that they win over the influence Information agent has on them on a daily basis.  

This is the level of dedication we need to spend towards improving our Value System. You need to be the gold medal winner in the competition of Value system. Develop the IFLC value system (the best value system) and you will be able to do feats that others find outright impossible. The IFLC Value system will help everyone at every stage of life and at every age, to make the right decisions and tread on the correct path to success, happiness and glory.

Self Awareness

The journey of developing positive value system starts with self-awareness

Self-awareness is the ability to recognize and understand your own emotions, thoughts, and behaviors, as well as how they impact others. It involves being conscious of your strengths, weaknesses, values, and beliefs, and how they align with your actions and decisions. Self-awareness allows you to:

• Identify your emotional triggers

• Understand your reactions in different situations

• Reflect on personal goals and values

• Recognize how others perceive you

By fostering self-awareness, individuals can improve personal growth, enhance relationships, and make better decisions in both personal and professional settings. It is a key component of emotional intelligence.

Here are the elements of self-awareness:

1. Emotional awareness

2. Accurate self-assessment

3. Self-confidence

4. Understanding personal values

5. Recognizing strengths and weaknesses

6. Awareness of emotional triggers

7. Awareness of thought patterns

8. Understanding personal motivations

9. Awareness of behavioural impact on others

10. Reflection on actions and decisions

Aspects of life impacted by low self-awareness include:

1. Personal Relationships

2. Emotional Well-being

3. Decision-making

4. Career Growth

5. Communication Skills

6. Conflict Resolution

7. Self-confidence

8. Time Management

9. Stress Management

10. Personal Development

As you can see a person with low self-awareness will struggle in most aspects of their life.

To improve self-awareness, consider these strategies:

1. Practice Self-Reflection: Regularly reflect on your thoughts, feelings, and actions to understand your behavior patterns.

2. Seek Feedback: Ask for honest feedback from friends, family, or colleagues to gain external perspectives on how others see you.

3. Keep a Journal: Write about daily experiences and emotions to identify recurring patterns and triggers.

4. Meditate or Practice Mindfulness: Focus on the present moment to become more attuned to your thoughts and feelings.

5. Take Personality or Emotional Intelligence Assessments: Tools like Myers-Briggs or EQ tests can help you understand your traits and emotional responses.

6. Set Personal Goals: Establish clear goals and reflect on how your behaviors align with achieving them.

7. Observe Your Reactions: Pay attention to your emotional responses in different situations, especially under stress or conflict. And compare that with the person's response who has good inter-personal skills.

8. Develop Active Listening: Listen carefully to others without immediate judgment, which can help you understand both your and others’ perspectives better.

9. Identify Strengths and Weaknesses: Be honest about your abilities and areas for improvement, focusing on personal growth.

10. Learn from Mistakes: Reflect on past experiences and mistakes to understand how to respond better in future situations.

Emotional Self Regulation

Self-regulation, a key component of emotional intelligence and personal growth, involves managing one's thoughts, emotions, and behaviours in pursuit of long-term goals. The main sub-elements of self-regulation include:

1. Self-Control: The ability to manage impulsive feelings and behaviours, staying in control even in challenging situations.

2. Emotional Regulation: Managing and responding to emotional experiences in a healthy and constructive way, rather than being overwhelmed by them.

3. Delayed Gratification: The ability to resist immediate rewards in favour of achieving long-term goals.

4. Goal Setting: Establishing clear, realistic goals and staying focused on them despite distractions or setbacks.

5. Resilience: The capacity to recover from stress, adversity, or failure, maintaining focus and motivation.

6. Adaptability: Flexibility in adjusting to changing circumstances, while maintaining progress toward goals.

7. Cognitive Reappraisal: The ability to reinterpret negative situations or emotions in a more positive, constructive light.

8. Impulse Control: Managing desires or urges to act immediately, allowing for thoughtful decision-making.

9. Stress Management: Employing techniques like mindfulness or relaxation to keep stress from overwhelming or derailing progress.

Together, these sub-elements contribute to an individual's ability to regulate their behavior, maintain focus, and adapt to challenges in a productive way.

How something happens to you impacts you

An incident unfolds in a series of steps, influencing emotions, reactions, and social dynamics. Here's a step-by-step breakdown:

1. The Incident Occurs

• Trigger Event: An event happens unexpectedly, such as a negative comment, mistake, or miscommunication.

• Perception: The individual perceives this incident based on their personal experiences, expectations, and state of mind.

2. Emotional Response

• Initial Reaction: The person's emotions are triggered, which could include feelings like anger, frustration, sadness, or anxiety.

• Internal Processing: The individual’s thoughts shape their emotions—either escalating or calming them. For instance, negative self-talk may intensify their feelings.

3. Behavioral Reaction

• Action Taken: The individual reacts to their emotions, either immediately (impulsively) or after some consideration. Their reaction might be verbal (shouting, arguing) or non-verbal (withdrawing, crying, shutting down).

• Choice of Reaction: If the person has self-regulation, they might pause, assess the situation, and choose a calm, reasoned response. Without self-regulation, their response could be emotional and uncontrolled.

4. Impact on Others

• Others’ Perception: The reaction influences how the people around them perceive the situation. If the response is aggressive or emotional, it may provoke stress or defensiveness in others.

• Social Feedback: People respond based on the reaction they witness. They may feel the need to console, defend, or even retaliate, depending on the nature of the initial response.

  • For example, if the person reacts angrily, others may mirror that anger or withdraw out of discomfort. Alternatively, a calm reaction could lead to constructive dialogue.

5. Emotional Impact on the Individual

• Self-Reflection: The person reflects on the impact of their reaction—whether it helped or worsened the situation. They might feel regret, guilt, or validation depending on how others responded.

• Feedback Loop: If others react negatively, the person might feel misunderstood, isolated, or criticized, which could lead to further emotional turmoil. On the other hand, if the reaction is met with support or understanding, the person may feel affirmed and calmer.

6. Long-Term Consequences

• Reinforcement of Behavior: The way the incident is resolved (positively or negatively) reinforces future behavior. Positive reinforcement may encourage better self-regulation next time, while negative outcomes may lead to heightened emotional reactions in the future.

• Relationship Dynamics: The incident may either strengthen or strain relationships. Negative reactions can lead to tension, mistrust, or resentment, while constructive reactions can foster understanding and mutual respect.

In essence, the cycle of an incident starts with a trigger, leads to emotional and behavioral responses, and then spirals through how those responses impact others and, in turn, reflect back on the individual. Each reaction creates a ripple effect, influencing personal and social outcomes.

The worst negative aspects of personality, to avoid.

These are some of the worst qualities a person can have; so we must avoid them at all costs:

• Constant pessimism and focusing on the worst aspects of life drain energy and repel others, making happiness elusive

• An inflated sense of self-importance leads to arrogance and an inability to empathize or connect with others, damaging relationships

• Holding onto grudges breeds resentment and prevents emotional healing, robbing one of inner peace

• Avoiding responsibility or effort leads to stagnation, unfulfilled potential, and a lack of purpose

• Inability to control impulses can lead to poor decisions, damaging health, finances, and relationships

• Constant comparison with others fosters dissatisfaction and distracts from appreciating one’s own blessings

• Refusing to adapt or consider new perspectives limits growth and creates unnecessary conflicts

• Refusing to admit mistakes or seek help due to pride creates isolation and prevents learning from failures

• Poor ability to understand or regulate emotions leads to misunderstandings, conflicts, and strained relationships

• Always seeking immediate results or gratification leads to frustration and hinders long-term happiness

• Constantly questioning one’s worth or abilities erodes confidence and creates a cycle of fear and inaction

• Micromanaging every aspect of life or relationships leads to stress and alienates others

• Failing to appreciate life’s blessings diminishes joy and disconnects one from a sense of fulfillment

• Living without integrity damages trust, both with others and oneself, leading to loneliness and regret

• Resisting new opportunities or perspectives traps one in unfulfilling situations, stifling growth and happiness

Value System Rules

Rules are the things you need to byheart and keep in your mind all the time. This is the reality of what happens. Today if you do not understand it or agree with it then do not worry; someday you will surely find it to be correct.

1. The world has been made super complicated by humans so you will have to keep fighting to win in life.

2. Only your value system(or ethics) is in your control everything else is out of your control.

3. Develop practical value system in life and not an idealistic value system. Ideal Family Lifestyle Club (IFLC) teaches you practical value system.

4. A distinguishing characteristic of an effective person is productivity.

5. Self-control is the ability to resist temptation and persevere through challenges. It involves delaying gratification.

6. Empathy: Consider the perspectives of others.

7. Humility: Acknowledge the strengths of others and avoid arrogance.

8. Effective Communication: Communicate clearly, listen actively, and adapt your communication style.

9. Positive Relationships: Build and maintain positive connections with others.

10. Be aware of your own biases and strive for objectivity. 

11. Addiction is a way of coping with life's challenges. While it may provide temporary relief, it's ultimately a sign of surrender. Strong individuals can overcome addiction and transform their lives. Addiction can affect anyone and can manifest in various forms, including food, love, money, alcohol, smoking, drugs, and more.

Value System - Duties

Duties are the things you need to do on a daily basis to become better at this.

1. Believe in IFLC with 100% confidence.

2. Manage your anger for your long-term benefit.

3. Don't fight every battle; sometimes it's better to lose a battle to win the war.

4. Focus on your strategic, long-term goals.

5. Talk less, listen more.

6. Be cheerful, even if it's for appearances' sake.

7. In life look at every change as an opportunity; not a threat.

8. Don't take unnecessary risks.

9. Try three more times before giving up on something.

10. Ask for feedback from others to identify areas for improvement. 

11. Find joy in the present moment. While dreams may take time to realize, appreciate what you have now. Hard work can make your dreams a reality, but enjoying the present is essential. If you don't savour the simple pleasures today, you may regret it in the future. 

12. Understand your emotions. Identify what drives you, what improves your mood, what tires you, what frustrates you, and what makes you angry. Surround yourself with things that help you stay cheerful and energetic.

13. With every step (however small) you take toward improvement, you'll surpass many people. It's worth the effort, and you'll see the difference after making consistent progress.

14. The art of persistently completing long-term projects is valuable. Tasks that require 30 minutes of daily effort for 360 days can yield impressive results. While these tasks may be monotonous, perseverance is key. By mastering this skill, you can distinguish yourself from the average person.

15. Identify your energy source early in life. This is something that brings you enough joy to make even the most boring tasks seem enjoyable. Once you find this source of energy, you can work consistently without getting tired, leading to a more fulfilling life. Building positive relationships with people can be a great way to find your energy source.

16. Have a desire in yourself to make the most of every situation, whether good or bad.

17. Maintain a clear distinction between your inner thoughts and your external actions.

18. Do not let the external world force you to take any action that is against your value system.

19. Never completely reveal your true self to anyone.

20. Remember that success is achieved gradually. Take small steps toward your goals, and each accomplishment contributes to your overall progress.

21. Maintain a calm and composed demeanour. If you do, people around the world will appreciate your presence.

22. Optimism pays off, especially with patience. The more you wait patiently with a positive attitude, the greater the rewards will be.

23. As you become successful, be mindful of your ego, as it can hinder your career. Maintain humility and acknowledge the strengths of others. This approach can help you avoid conflicts.

24. Remember that competition is widespread. The key to success is hard work. There's no limit to how far you can go in any field, as others have likely already achieved great things.

25. When you need to perform at your best but aren't feeling motivated, a mental trick called "induced happiness" can be effective. By convincing your brain that everything is positive and you're enjoying the task, you can trick it into feeling more engaged and motivated. Remember, no job is inherently enjoyable when it requires intense effort. Perseverance is what drives long-term success.

26. Life can be a challenging and demanding journey. As you age, it may become even more difficult. Regardless of your preferences, you'll have to navigate it. The best approach is to embrace the challenges and strive for your goals.

27. Monetize your knowledge whenever possible. If you can't, your life may feel unfulfilled. While knowledge is valuable, people may not always respect it. Sharing your knowledge for the benefit of others might be viewed negatively. Instead, focus on demonstrating your value through accomplishments and actions.

28. Having principles is essential for making sound decisions and achieving success. However, be mindful of how you communicate them to others.

29. Sometimes your principles may conflict with the desires of others. Be aware of this and choose your words carefully. While your values are important to you, others may not share your perspective.

30. Begin each day by planning your activities for the next day. This will help you stay focused and productive.

31. Change your behavior by learning new things and monitoring your progress. It's essential to track your learning to ensure you retain and apply the knowledge.

32. While personal connections aren't always essential, maintaining positive relationships with others can benefit your career. Smile and remain positive even in challenging situations, but don't feel obligated to go out of your way to please everyone.

33. Life can be unpredictable and challenging. Stay focused on your goals and avoid letting negative emotions control you. Prioritize your growth and well-being over short-term pleasures.

34. Live in the present and remain focused on your goals.

35. Distract your opponent and then strike when they least expect it.

36. When entering a new situation, quickly establish a strategic advantage.

37. Identify your opponent's weaknesses and exploit them with your strengths.

38. Avoid making mistakes. Think carefully before taking action.

39. Consider all possible outcomes of your actions and anticipate potential countermoves from your opponents. Use your imagination and visualization skills to strategize. Stay aware of your surroundings.

40. Combine and recombine ideas, images, and thoughts in unique and unconventional ways.

41. Build relationships and find connections between different subjects.

42. Based on your existing knowledge, create a hypothesis about how something works. Test your hypothesis and analyze the results. If unsure, ask yourself questions and seek answers. If your initial hypothesis is incorrect, develop a new one.

Value System DO NOTs:

Do not do any of these things.

1. Don't let anger control your actions or decisions.

2. Don't be afraid to express your emotions healthily.

3. Don't suppress your feelings.

4. Don't neglect long-term goals for short-term gains.

5. Don't be impulsive or make rash decisions.

6. Don't be afraid to take calculated risks.

7. Don't be overly critical or judgmental.

8. Don't be afraid to ask for help or support.

9. Don't neglect building and maintaining strong relationships.

10. Don't become complacent or stop learning.

11. Don't be afraid to step outside of your comfort zone.

12. Don't let fear hold you back from pursuing your goals.

13. Don't dwell on negative thoughts or experiences.

14. on't let setbacks discourage you.

15. Don't compare yourself to others.

Why you are not yet doing right things at the right time?

The reasons

1. You are not hopeful of life getting any better; even if you try to mend it.

2. You are not confident that life can be fixed.

3. You have been through such tough time that you have just given it up altogether.

4. You are lazy to change anything in life.

5. You do not have enough inspiration in your life to improve it.

6. Due to so many things happening in your life; you have left life in auto-pilot mode.

Mental States of a person

The various states of mind can be any of the following

1. Enlightenment: The pinnacle of emotional and spiritual development, marked by universal understanding and serenity.

2. Peace: Inner tranquility and freedom from conflict or disturbance.

3. Joy: A state of bliss and deep gratitude, often spontaneous and unshakable.

4. Love: A sense of connection, compassion, and genuine care for others.

5. Reason: Clarity of thought and logical understanding, focused on problem-solving.

6. Acceptance: Understanding and embracing life as it is without resistance.

7. Willingness: Readiness to engage, grow, and contribute positively.

8. Neutrality: A state of detachment, acceptance, and flexibility.

9. Courage: Willingness to face challenges and take action despite fear.

10. Pride: A sense of achievement or superiority, but often defensive or fragile.

11. Anger: Frustration or resentment, often arising from unmet expectations.

12. Desire: Longing or craving for something perceived as missing.

13. Fear: Anxiety or concern about potential threats or the unknown.

14. Grief: Profound sadness or loss, often involving despair.

15. Apathy: Feeling lifeless or stuck, characterized by a lack of hope or energy.

16. Guilt: Regret or remorse over perceived wrongs or failures.

17. Shame: Deep self-loathing or humiliation, often associated with feelings of worthlessness.

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